My loyal readers know that I don’t believe in “making” horses do anything.  I don’t even believe it’s possible to “make” horses do anything (and neither do others, as evidenced by the famous saying, “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink”).

So why am I talking about making your horse pay attention?  Simply because it would sound a little strange if I talked about how to persuade your horse to pay attention…or encourage your horse to pay attention.  Those phrases sound too half-hearted for such a serious endeavor.  And they miss the point — that paying attention is non-negotiable.

Still, it doesn’t have to be as deadly or as dreary as this spelling lesson in Chelsea, England in 1912

If you have horses that are unfocused or easily distracted…or more concerned with their own welfare than yours…or convinced that their agenda is more important than anything you might come up with…or who tune you out when they decide they feel like listening to a different kind of music than whatever it is you’re playing, read on.  I have some ideas that might help you.

Unfortunately, as usual, the onus is on you.  Here are some questions to ask yourself:

1.  Are you paying attention to your horse (I mean really paying attention)?  If you want your horse to pay attention to you, you have to pay attention to your horse.  If you want your horse to stay focused on you, you have to stay focused on your horse.  Admittedly, this can be a challenge. Especially when you want to chat in the barn aisle or text your BFF.  Well, too bad.  You have work to do.  And if you want to get the job done, you have to make sacrifices.

2.  Are you boring your horse?  I know this is a hard question to answer because the answer can be hard to swallow.  We consider ourselves — or at least many of us do — smarter than our horses.  And while that may be true (in many instances, I know it for a fact to be false), intelligence does not equal interest.  It’s easy to be smart and boring at the same time.  I went to Yale; I should know.

Even if you think you might be boring your horse only on the rarest of occasions, think of how much more focused your horse might be on you if your interactions were really interesting.  For example, if you never repeated the same geometric pattern twice during your schooling session.  Or if you did something fun that you don’t often do, like jumping or galloping or doing groundwork or clicker training or bodywork or riding bareback or playing mounted games or agility or working equitation.

Nothing pleases a horse more than routine (unless it’s eating grass).  So routine is great if all you’re interested in is pleasing your horse.  Altering routine is great if you want your horse to please you (it also teaches patience and flexibility and adaptability).  To be successful and not stressed-out while altering routine, it helps to be able to answer the next question in the affirmative:

3.  Are you a confident leader?  Leaders inspire, so followers want to follow them.  A leader is not a dictator who forces compliance.  It’s common to see more dictatorship than leadership in the horse world, probably because horses are so much larger than we are and that makes us afraid.  Fear really kicks in when we think about the harm an unfocused thousand-pound animal could wreak on us.

Out of this fear arises the popular “alpha” models of horse management, the home of such cherished concepts as “come to Jesus moments.”  Regrettably, this school of management churns out zoned-out zombie horses with dead eyes, who have exchanged their initiative and generosity for obedience.  But even when it’s not so bad, it’s just as fake, when horses look in the right direction but lack interest, comply but don’t engage, and move their bodies in response to your aids, but never with enthusiasm or brilliance.

4.  Do you trust yourself and have faith in your horse?  Just as people need to know you believe in them if they’re going to give their best, so do horses.  When you’re working with horses, it’s important to trust yourself and trust your horse and trust the process.  If you find that difficult, you can just act as if.  Act with calm and quiet self-assurance and leave the bravado for the pitchmen.  With practice, you’ll find that trust (and the quiet confidence that comes with it) will become part of you.

Whatever you do, don’t ask your horse to make decisions for you.  Don’t beg or plead with your horse and don’t take no for an answer.  Just maintain your boundaries, be firm and loving, and communicate your expectations clearly.

5.  Are you needy?  I know that as a young girl, I was desperate for the love and safety I felt around horses — love and safety that was missing from my life away from the barn.  I was needy then, and I’m sure the horses knew it, but most horses have a soft spot in their hearts for children, and take care of them.

As adults, we’re in a different boat (or saddle).  In my experience, at least, horses don’t particularly enjoy being around needy adults.  Sometimes, needy adults solve the problem by becoming human treat dispensers, asking nothing of their horses except to be kind enough to eat out of their hands.  Which horses are happy to do.  And if you’ve asked nothing of a horse before giving that treat, that horse is likely to be a lot more focused on the treat than on you.

So don’t make a negative contract with your horse — “I’ll give you treats if you act like you love me.”  Your horse will certainly love the treats.  Your horse probably already loves you and would love you even without the treats. But does your horse care if he pleases you?  Or have you taught him to be more interested in how you’re pleasing him?  Which brings me to…

6.  What are your expectations?  You should know what you expect of your horse.  And then set a standard of excellence.  You’ll work to achieve it and expect your horse to do the same.

If you want to make your horse pay attention, you’ve got to keep raising the bar.  It doesn’t have to big things.  It can be little things.  In fact, it should be little things. Beudant said, “Ask for much, be content with little and reward often” but sometimes asking for much is no more than asking for lots of little things.  Ask for a little flexion while you’re leading.  Ask for a little patience while you’re at the halt.  Ask for a little more collection or a little more extension.  Or even just a little more space for yourself.

You’ll know you’ve got it right when your horse keeps his or her eye on you when you’re together, who is responsive to your requests (while waiting to hear what your next request will be), and who appears as enraptured with you as a boyfriend ready to pop the question.

After a while, your bond will be strong enough that you’ll know you’re connected even when it’s not as visible.  You’ll both feel the connection and your horse will be a full participant in your partnership.

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